I have been always wondering about the fact that sometimes parents either push the kid into the right direction while other times they can totally mess their lives up by “not” pushing them enough to face the world.
Some examples are when a kid is interested in arts they want him to be a doctor, and when he’s interested in something totally different from the rest of the Asian families they want him to be an engineer. What is with that? Yes, times are changing and the new generation gives a little bit of notice to this fact that kids will do great in things they are interested in. Just to get the family to say “Oh your son is a doctor, great job” No no no. That’s NOT right.
If your kid is into arts, if he’s a good artist. Make SURE that he keeps it going, because who knows that one day he will manage to be the next Leonardo Da Vinci. The formula is so simple yet so confused by some parents.
On the other hand we have parents who don’t pay attention to what the kid does at school at all. So in other words they just bring them to this world and let them be on their own, yes they do pay their bills and so on. But they don’t help them stand on their feet. Maybe because they feel they don’t need to. But that’s where the problem lies. Those types of parents have brought kids to this world, but only for the sake of being parents. Not to be a mother and a father. The kids that are the result of these types of actions by the parents are most of the times either very low in confidence, and quite far behind the rest of the world in all possible ways.
To cover up their shortcomings, the kids tend to do different things at one time, or nothing at all. In other words their parents have brought to this world another person who will suffer himself for not earning for himself or his own family, if he ever can afford one. A child that’s either been pushed into a field or not at all both suffer alike. One who isn’t doing what he loves and other who doesn’t know what he loves to do because he never got anyone guiding him.
Kids should only be brought to this world when parents know that this is a full time job that they have to take seriously. So I would like to request to all present and future parents, please only bring kids to this world when you are sure you know that its a complete person you are giving birth to who would need guidance. Don’t just throw them into this world on the mercy of others.
Thanks for reading and do comment if you would like to add something.. 
July 25th, 2008 at 6:58 am
One again a very touchy and important topic Wakas
hmmm You said it all so well that there isnt much left for me to say but still hmmm, you see when we tell someone that one should think billion times b4 they bring a child to this world, think abt all the resposibility and all that they have to need to and must give up… what answer do we sometimes get “Yea right!! one dont take a kids-manage course b4 bringing a child to this world” well…Why not I say…. that can be done, no problem…. But oki oki lets say not every1 has the opportunity to do that…They could atleast put some more effort in the fact that its a LIFE they going to bring in this world, and how are they going to make this LIFE successful in Living….And have in mind success is NoT “money” ….
I agree with you there Wakas that parents and especially our asian parents wants to decide most of the things for their kids, like what profession they should choose and what type of life they should be living, thou the kid don’t show any interest in that field they kind of in a emotionally way force them into it, and then when they fail, all the blame on the kid that he/she dull etc etc… I think they need to work on themselves as well, and consider what kind of nature the kid has and what they can be good in… You never know what a successful human being they might be… So yea they deserve to be given a chance in what they show interests in, now im talking abt a profession and a life style that is proper and not like if a kid wants to become a drug seller and the parents should allow them..No no no..
There are tooo many parents who dont pay the attention to their kids lives as it deserve, and by the time they realize it hmmm well often and unfortunately Its toooo late….
Allah bless you
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July 25th, 2008 at 10:46 am
Appreciate the thought behind this post Wakas , Often people do bring in children into this world not realizing what a responsibility it is to be parents.They go on with time half the time not putting their all into the upbringing of the children .
Often parents look at living their dreams through the children & this is seen in most Asian communities, forgetting that by the time the child grows up, so many new vistas have opened up for them, new careers ,so much more exposure. So parents should move with times & while aiding & guiding kids the right way should not force them into something just because they feel the kids should do it.
Since am a mom, here is what i feel…. I would expose my kids to as many things as I can… right now they do get training for Drama, Piano & a couple of different sports along with the regular curriculum, as time goes, you see what they excel in and enjoy , I will let them pursue it.While a certain level of academics is expected, The interests that they develop is what should be given importance for when there is a passion for something, success always follows & ultimately as parents you want your children to be happy & successful as well.
The most as parents you can do is to give your children a firm foundation, strong ethics & a quiet sense of confidence in themselves.When they have that , then whatever they choose to do with their lives, they are bound to succeed in it