Comments on: Abuse her / kill her..same thing!

By: Nira

Nira — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 02:26:37 +0000

Abuse of anykind is bad be it physical or mental, marriage is a sacred union of two people where there should be love respect and trust, if the spouse has to live every minute in fear not knowing what will come to her. is a living hell to her.

This has to be understood and stopped, to build up relationship.

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Very well said.. love, respect and trust the most important ingredients in the handi of shadi

By: Wakas Mir

Wakas Mir — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 13:02:35 +0000

@ ik_larki

Thx a lot sis for extending the entry a bit further and shedding light on the issue. It’s amazing that so many of you have the same views

By: Ik_Larki!

Ik_Larki! — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 12:05:56 +0000

As you mentioned earlier spousal abuse whether it is verbal or non-verbal can hurt immensely.
I think husband and wife share an intense bond with each other, in which they should be close enough to each other to share their thoughts and problems, if any, with each other. It can happen in a decent way i.e. a normal conversation. Turning to a beastly way to solve issues, never solves anything but instead worsens the lives of both people.
Keeping women in mind, I think it is easier for women of all origins who live in a Western community to get a divorce and live on their own if things get out of hand in comparison to those who live in group cultures. In group cultures it is an option, which doesn’t really exist and thus a woman has to live with her husband despite his verbal and physical abuses. What I find pathetic is that women have nowhere else to go in such situations, and therefore they choose a life which portrays the ‘support’ of their husbands to the outer world and thus makes them look respectable in other people’s eyes. It doesn’t entirely revolve around them anymore, but around what other people think about them and how they judge them.
Verbal and Physical abuse, whether it comes from the man’s side or the woman’s side isn’t justifiable. Sarcasm in serious situations creates a crack between the beautiful bond two people share with each other.
I think this isn’t just a war between two individuals, but communities are part of it.
Respect is one of the foremost requirements in a marriage, and if one hurts one’s spouse with harsh words or heavy beatings, it isn’t only inhumane but he also crosses the boundary of a relationship that is based on respect, trust and love.

By: Wakas Mir

Wakas Mir — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 19:43:46 +0000

@ aarzoo

thx sis for sharing you views You mentioned some very nice pointers here

By: aarzoo

aarzoo — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 17:11:27 +0000

well..well after reading the whole blog n reading everybody’s feed back..my mind is totally drained out….emotionally disturbed by this truth..

i feel there is so much to write but sometimes keeping mum speaks a lot…well woman who r in these relationships tend to become more stronger n immune to the abuse n they stick to this circumstances due to lots of factors..the first n foremost is lack of financial security then kids, then family, society..uffffffff the line fo excuses just goes on..it’s always the women who is thought to keep mum n bear the concequences for sake of family there sibblings not getting married due to a break-up..don’t know how many sick reasons…to bind up in an unwanted marriage..but nobody comes forward n rescue the woman out of this mess by giving her the strength n financial security..it can be friends parents brother…anyone who can give a direction to the woman..but it never happens..they give some amount n advise them to slog in that marriage…very sad indeed..she is totally trapped in that environment…with nothing to do..

n child abuse i think the parents who can’t cope up with bringing up the children tend to this kind of action as they take out all of there frustration on the poor child as they feel the child a burden an unwanted…my only wuestion is when u can’t come who gave u the right to bring the child in the world..better be mentally prepared to bring a new life in the world.

bless u bro for writing the truth which really stinks…May God give a direction to the wrong doers.

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