Was thinking ke our desi guys and gals either go to the extreme of being very respectful towards their parents or the opposite. But since I am focusing on desis here are some tips which obviously I would be following too.. dair aaye darust aaye (better late than never) for the few reading.
1. Listen to them
If they got something to say, listen to them. As they keep the roof over your head and provide you with food. So sad to NOT show your thankfulness after so much they do for you. Calm down don’t shout and just listen to what they have to say. Remember they are your parents, not your classfellows that you can just listen through one ear and out the other.
2. Don’t argue with them
Arguing never helps at all, just think over what you are saying and try to be realistic. Sometimes you will see, well most of the times you will see that you being in that argue-mode will make a situation even worse. Calm down, have a glass of lassi or a cup of tea.
3. Be very polite
Being polite is always the best thing you can do for yourself and your parents, especially when guests are around. Don’t ever humiliate them in front of others. They will be hurt very badly.
4. Got friends? Ask them to behave
It’s your job to make sure your friends behave in front of your parents, and vice versa. Don’t try to be oversmart by making your parents look bad. Friends who see that you don’t respect your parents, will NEVER value you in the long run.
5. Show them that they are special
Do things for them around the house all the time. Your parents are special and also humanbeings like you, they also need rest and don’t have to keep on caring for you when you have your own set of hands and feet. How do you think you came to this world? Dropped off the nearest coconut tree?
They are special because YOU are here because of them. And nothing can be more “specialer” than that 
Do add your views as to HOW we can all be more respectful towards our parents.. us desis are known to be polite when it comes to our elders.
Issi baat pe ek shair ho jaye :-
Jo banda apne maa baap ke dil ko dukhata hei
Wo zindagi bhar sab se chittar khaata hei
If you are a parent then this book is just too good, and if you are a son or a daughter with parents that don’t understand then try this one.
Now your turn! Share with the rest of us what is so special about YOUR parents This will in return make you even more aware of what you should be thankful for.
September 15th, 2008 at 6:50 am
hmm…I had my moments of extreme disobedience and misbehaving with my mother – rudeness based on the fact that we dont communicate that well. I used to get jealous of her bonding with my older sister.
When I became a mother myself, I have started seeing her as I am in my life – a woman with a lot of responsibilities and worries – I am her strongest guardian angel now – I look after my moms emotional health as a best friend and sometimes, like an older sister I think
She is scared of me. I look like her too. My adorable and cool Mom
September 15th, 2008 at 7:08 am
Happens na.. one always has something like that happening in one way or the other. I didn’t live with my dad till I was 10 so the differences were there but thank God it’s lot better now.. but glad you doing good now with mum..
September 15th, 2008 at 10:37 am
i am such an ill-fated person to respect my parents. ive got best of the mom and dad in the world and worst of the fortune. i love them but i cant express. there is something in my mind that nobody except them can see me swaggring. i love them and i respect them more than anybody else but im not polite with them, argue with them and never let them realize their speciality to me. :’(
September 15th, 2008 at 12:48 pm
SubhanaAllah! wht a topic you have chosen, I would like to mention few hadith’s regarding respecting partents;
Honouring Parents: The Words of Allah Almighty: “We have instructed man to honour his parents.” (29:8)
Ibn ‘Abbas said, “If any Muslim obeys Allah regarding his parents, Allah will open two gates of the Garden for him. If there is only one parent, then one gate will be opened. If one of them is angry, then Allah will not be pleased with him until that parent is pleased with him.” He was asked, “Even if they wrong him?” “Even if they wrong him” he replied.
September 15th, 2008 at 2:29 pm
Hmmm…yes, I have been thru that teenage phase where I was behaved quite badly with my parents. I have been thru the phase where I wanted to go as far as possible from them.
But over the years, I have learned a few things (hopefully!
) I am grateful to Allah Who has made me lot more appreciative towards them. Atleast, now when I sometimes raise my voice at them, I feel remorse. Besides, our arguments have decreased in number, don’t know the reason, have I grown up or have they given up hope? I sincerely hope its the former 
That “not even saying uff!” stage is very far at this point, but over the years, I do hope that I have ‘evolved’ into a better daughter and pray to Allah that this ‘evolvement’ keeps going on.
September 15th, 2008 at 3:27 pm
Baqaul Maulana M. A. H. Haali:
“Baap ki aur walida ki shafqatain
Umar bhar na bhoolain gi humain.”
One of the things my siblings & I do is that whenever our Mom comes home (from work or grocery shopping), we all stand up to greet her, and take from her anything that she is carrying and go to her car to take out the groceries and other things. It’s nothing big, but such little gestures of kindness and respect make her happy!
September 15th, 2008 at 5:32 pm
@ duffer
aww well lets dua ke hum sab learn to do something that makes them realize they special na..
@ masood
parents are wonderful hmm time as time I am understanding that even more
@ ordinary girl
In the same boat as you.. or well was.. but lots better now Allah ka shukar and will dua ke you ka bhi relation better n better ho jaye
@ meher
Thats a very nice gesture.. isstarah ki batein mean a lot to mums na.. welcome to Desi Pagdhi …
September 15th, 2008 at 8:26 pm
i have Respecting all old and my mom and dad
September 15th, 2008 at 11:39 pm
Nice topic for discussion keep it up ! As parents get older , kids tend to stop giving them respect and importance. It would do us good to realise that they were the ones who taught us to walk holding our hand as toddlers and now as they grow older we need to support them.
I guess becoming a mom myself made me respect my mom more and as I have taken the responsibility of taking care of her I do try to make her life comfortable.I am a great believer in little gestures so I do small things to make mom feel gud…like maybe give her a pedicure the weekends, cook her favourites, take her out for movies etc.Apart from that I think twice before I argue with her on anything and generally let her have her say.Another thing I have felt i should do is just ask her advice on certain things whether I need it or not….just to make her feel important.
September 16th, 2008 at 12:27 am
Beautiful post and beautifully expressed Wakas, anything that is a reminder how precious parents are cant be anything but lovely
I always get attract 2 writings and talks abt parents, I believe I am what im coz of them, Allah ke baad my life, my personality,my entire future, my faith, were all in their hands.. And i must admit I feel that i have the bestest parents in the universe (just like 99% others must be saying abt their parents as well) …
Alhamdulillah and im really thankful 2Allah that i have always been respectful towards my ami abu, I find being polite and kind 2 them the esiest thing 2do, it gives me pleasure, it bring so much happiness 2my heart seing them happy… And Alhamdulillah they feel proud 2 call me their daughter, hopefully it will remain so 4ever, InshAllah..
4 those who take 4granted their parent, let it me mum or dad umm, I wud just like 2 share this thing i read hmm.. Hoping that somehow it will help someone 2do “themselve” a favor, b4 its 2late…
“Aik father 8kids ki dekhbaal(lookafter) kar sakta hai, and those 8kids can take care of their 8kids but none of them can take care of that Aik father,unka ka khyal nahin rakh sakte… Kyon? Coz those 8kids have seen their father taking care of them 8,but not seen him taking care of his One father”
moral: How u treat ur parents, ur kids will treat U.. Never have any doubt abt that my friend!
Be blessd!
September 16th, 2008 at 4:00 am
Like some others, I was behaved very badly to my parents in past but some years before, I finally realized and learned that they always think our best…. God bless my parents.
Nice post~!
September 16th, 2008 at 5:00 am
Bless ya Raahbar bro.. may Allah keep us on the right path.. ye gore bada kehte hein humein ke we really respectful to elders, lets keep it this way na
thx for jumping on here
September 16th, 2008 at 5:02 am
@ aun
thx for coming by aun sis
@ saanj
It’s the small gestures that make their life worth living at a point when they are tired and old na.. thx for sharing
@ Bholibhali
Learnt a lot from the way you think Bholibhali stay like this..
September 16th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
good thoughts,
I think we should not only care about our parent and respect them but also to elders.
loved the post…
keep posting
September 16th, 2008 at 3:53 pm
I’m probably not a desi, but I liked the advices.
Hanna
September 16th, 2008 at 9:01 pm
Oh, I was the classic problem child in my early teens for my parents. Now that I think about it, I can only smile and shake my head at all those stupid things I used to do.
September 17th, 2008 at 3:32 am
@ awahid
thx for dropping by and glad you liked it
@ hanna
Hey hanna welcome and thx
@ saadat
We all do some silly things when young just learning from them is what makes us wiser na…. thx for dropping by
October 12th, 2008 at 5:47 pm
Wakas very nice…. but i think being a desi we all do respeact our parents little more thn others. Even children who are brought up in a different envi.. and i must say one thing
one doesnt have to do big things for parent… i believe if we do very ummeaningful things for us…. may mean a lot to parents…
May 28th, 2009 at 4:20 am
good one ,may Allah help us to act upon…how poor muslims we r !!!!!
July 19th, 2009 at 11:01 am
What unfotunate N miserable human being is that who don’t respect N love their parents, they’ll never in life succeed in anything N be truly happy, never. It’s just not possible
God bless for the tips N this reminder, Wakas