Today I will be talking about something that I really would love to know your views about, YOU as a individual can help and guide as to what should be done here.
I will write the whole thing as a list:-
- There is a doctor who is treating a very good friend of mine for brain surgery
- The friend has lost her memory numerous times after a tragic accident
- Miracle after miracle.. she survived and came back to life again and again
- She forgets everything from the past few years not knowing who was her someone special
- The “desi” doctor treating her has started having feelings for the friend
- The doctor knows that the person he is treating is in a very deep relation with someone else
- When doctor finds out he misuses his position and the trust her family places in him
- He has on various memory loss occasions confused her that she was in love with him
- It takes her few weeks / months to get back her memory after a bleeding
- During that time he tries his best to use any “doctor time” to confuse her.
- Her written diaries and friends she remembers tell her the opposite of what the doc says
- Doc stole her mobile phone, removed all the messages to get secrets about her
- Every time the friend got her memory back she confronted the doc and humiliated him
- Some people in her family are in a tragic situation and can’t be here
- Doctor was told to leave by her since she feels awful knowing his intentions
- Everyone in the family knows of this special someone, apart from the father
- The doctor NOW got her dad’s permission to fly her off to another country for “treatment”
This is as sick as a person can ever be. I mean how on earth can a doctor who KNOWS that a memory loss patient will get her memory back still goes on saying “I am your special someone” .. how insane is this?
What would YOU do in a situation like this knowing your friend is in a situation that is hell for them as no other doctor is taking this case due to its complexity..
September 19th, 2008 at 4:24 am
Hmm very tricky situation.If I had to suggest something, I would say first that hmmm maybe its time for the friend’s family to get to know about the special someone.Sometime they have to know and maybe it is the right time now.
As for the sick minded doctor, I have no words to describe the low, cheap thinking he has.I believe doctors have a sacred oath they take, that the patients well being is what should be foremost. Patients put all their trust in doctors and it is sickening to see how low a person can go for personal gain.
My suggestion would be to report the doctor.. not just to the cops but to the medical authorities for harassment and exploitation of the circumstances, sue him for mental harassment and make sure his license is taken away. Whether you do it or your friend is immaterial but he has to be reported as he is abusing his position as a doctor and breaking the trust placed in him by someone who has no control of her senses when she has no memory . Utterly disgusting.
September 19th, 2008 at 4:41 am
OMG what a sick doctor this is. The most important thing whenever one appoints a doctor is the aspect of trust.If you cant trust the doctor than how can u let your friend get treatment from her. Becoz he would not be into what is best for ur friend. The doctor should be reported at once. The friends special person should come to the family and show himself.
Do not in any circumstances let the doctor get away with her to another place. That would be to risky.
The violation of trust is a real big issue her and shoulnot be tolerated at any cost.
Inshallah everything will be theek. We all are praying..
September 19th, 2008 at 5:45 am
humans are like that
September 19th, 2008 at 6:31 am
Saanj has said it all, that is exactly what I thought. Hope her special someone loves her that much that he actually does something about the situation as soon as he can and not wait one second longer. How awful, feel like saying really bad words to the doctor.
May Allah Bless this special individual and her special someone; May He make her completely better that she never has to face that doctor ever again.. InshAllah and Ameen
September 19th, 2008 at 9:15 am
am blank at the moment, just few things, how can you call a person ‘doctor’ who is doing such immoral and sick things? i mean a doctor should never do such things, its a field full of responsibilities, God knows what is happening to this world… now who gonna trust doctors??
may Allah save all of us from such evil doctors and may HE gives complete health to you friend, ameen!
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September 19th, 2008 at 10:13 am
humiliation and zalalat is everywhere. you can expect anything from anybody and anywhere. no body knows sacracy of his profession, not our doctors, teachers, drivers,…
but what i am confused with is, why just the patient’s parents are unaware of the facts?
sorry but seems some bollywood story
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September 19th, 2008 at 10:38 am
@ Saanj
As for the reporting I am sure since he reads this blog he will realize how serious this whole thing is.
@ sara
Yups sis whatever being done or have been done all goes down the drain if someone doesn’t do their job.
@ Zaheer
Humans aren’t supposed to be like that.. that’s animals
@ Just Me
True sis.. it sure is a downfall for the sacred profession of doctors
@ Ayesha
Do dua for the friend please, you are blank yes hmm imagine someone being in the position .. how their mind would be now.
@ duffer
Yeah bro everyone thinks its a Bollywood story but some of us have been having major roles in this flick.. and it’s so sad .. the parents of the patient know about few things but not everything due to some reasons. More stuff will be out hopefully soon so everyone can do their job..
September 19th, 2008 at 12:04 pm
Right now me feeling sad but also angry…Sad for the patient & her friend & angry on this doctor…
Iam not doctor be a patient too & knows what are patient & family rights…If U r this patient friend U must have to report this Doctor…how U can do this??…even U dont know any doctor in hospital U have ur family Doctor, take time with him & discuss about all this…Hope He will understand U…If the hospital head could receive U ask him to find the same position Doctor who is following Ur dear One & the head give a period to this new doctor to treat the patient…then the head will see the difference on Ur Friend…
Its not just for U but for Her…
& one other thing i wanna add, please tell the truth abt Her & U to Ur friend parents…May be they will accept if U said them “no one knows tomorow but after Her parents will move from the earth who will care Her” …maaybe if they think openly they will accept U…
Sometimes parents couldnt express openly that they are sad for them daughter if she will stay at them home coz its the destiny as they say but if they find someone for them daughter on they could trust 101% they accept i think…
So try it, If U her Friend & Love her so much…
May Allah bless You both…my Duas for You both…
September 19th, 2008 at 1:30 pm
I can understand how tricky the situation is at the moment..the patients whole life is jeoparadise by the sick doc attitude…n anyway it’s inhuman n against ethics n this type of action is very bad ..how can he misuse the innocent patient…He should be banned as a doctor, this is not the right act by a professional doc..
n more over my sincere advice is for the patient to bring to the notice of the doc behaviour hiding it will bring more problems in her life…n it’s high time her parents should be knowing abt that someone special in her life…she should now tackle the situation with brain not heart…come on girl buck up n talk with whome so ever ur comfortable n will understand u..ur mom, dad, bro, cousin, aunt..there will be someone who will support u n bring this matter to light.
hiding urself from everyone is making the doc more confident so plzzzz bring the culprit to the light…all our prayers n support is with u..it’s only u who can make loads of difference in ur life..so come on just go n do it …we all r with u.
bless the girl to fight back the evil nmay she get back her love n may her parents accept it whole heartedly.
Thanks for enligting us the situation, atleast we know what type of people exists in this world. Allaah aql de in kam aql logon ko jo is medical profession ko apne napaak kartooton se badnaam karte hai.
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September 19th, 2008 at 3:09 pm
The doctor pretends he is special one in her life?
Why does he do it?
Thats the crux of the matter – What exactly are his intensions?
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September 19th, 2008 at 7:45 pm
@ anonymous
Something will be done now.. it sure will hmm
@ aarzoo sis
Ji sis maybe it’s time ke sab kuch bahir ajaye na
@ asma
Intentions hmm well aur kya ho sakti hein .. sab kuch zahir hei ke it’s just a case of “mein kyun nahi.. koi aur kyun” sadly the respect I had for that doctor has been strangled by himself..
September 20th, 2008 at 6:25 am
Can changing a doctor be an option?
September 20th, 2008 at 8:03 am
Changing a doc has always been a concern from her side but hasn’t been done cuz the father says he trusts him hmmm sadly as I am writing this the friend has lost their heartbeat and isn’t breathing hmm pls dua
September 20th, 2008 at 10:50 am
sorry but im getting restless to meet the characte “Father”. his script is needed to be change.
May Allah bless her with health and save her from deetractors
September 20th, 2008 at 11:20 am
Only the father doesn’t know about the special someone, everyone else in family is aware of him … duaing n hoping she gets well
September 21st, 2008 at 3:48 am
He is absolutely a Insane doctor…I recommend to change the doctor by making understand the whole situation to her father, because it might lead the girl’s life to more and more disturbing in future…this is just my assumption. May Allah bless her with health…Aameen!
September 21st, 2008 at 7:20 am
Thx anonymous for the tip.. yes we are trying to fix things let’s hope for the best.. bless ya
September 21st, 2008 at 1:29 pm
@Waqas
Oh..May Allah(SWT) bless her with health. Waqas probably you could play ur role here by finding a better doctor for your friend, once her condition gets better(InshAllah). Your friend could always tell her father that she’s not satisfied with this doctor.
September 21st, 2008 at 2:55 pm
This so-called ‘doctor’ doesn’t deserve to be anywhere near her or any other human. We go to doctors to get better health but in this case, he’s done nothing but to harm her. Someone like him, calling himself a doctor would stoop so slow for his personal interest in the patient is nothing but disgusting and cheap.
I would suggest reporting him and getting him far away from her. Yes, it’s hard when the father believes in this doctor so much but the father needs to be told the truth about this doctor. I’m sure when he finds out about what the doctor has been upto, he will protect his daughter.
May God bless her and keep every kind of evil away from her.
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September 22nd, 2008 at 2:01 pm
you can’t MAKE someone fall in love with you which is what this sick-minded doctor is trying to do…
I would say find that special someone and bring him infront of her…and kick out that doctor!!
By the way, wasn’t the guy informed of her accident? :S
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September 22nd, 2008 at 2:45 pm
Yups sab knew abt her accident na.. and yah hope Allah khidayat de sab ko hmm
July 19th, 2009 at 11:16 am
Gosh, how many test for some poor individuals hmmm – this doctor really must be a disturbed N insane soul to be doin all these things I must say hmmm. But, God’s merciful N he’ll for sure make sure his wonderful people are alright N safe.
This doctor is absolutely doin it so much worse to trust doctors hmmm – N I personally wouldn’t call him a doctor because doctors are supposed to save lives not end it. God mercy.
August 10th, 2009 at 2:33 pm
I would have just killed that doctor a hunderd times.
He has no right to play with the emotions of an innocent human, espacialy a very sweet lady.