When it comes to raising kids, the parents play a major role obviously. But what do you do when you are the eldest in the house, amongst your brothers and sisters. Where do you draw the line?
This is a question asked by all those elder brothers and sisters around the world who really care about their siblings. But what happens when you cross the line from being a bro to a father? Where does the respect go from that point on forward is just something very dangerous for that relationship.
I am the eldest among my siblings and sometimes when I define some rules at home which dad is too soft to establish, it makes things go a bit up and down. So from now onwards I will focus on being a brother rather than being a dad because tested and proven methods don’t work when the head of the house isn’t strict like you :)
So what about you? If you are the young one in your family.. how do you want your eldest bro or sis to behave with you? And if you are the eldest what do you do?
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October 28th, 2008 at 6:43 am
my elder brother is the nicest brother in the world :) too nice to describe.
what ever he says is final, i never oppose him at all, in fact i cant. the love and care he has for us doesn’t let us to do that. apart from that he never tries to impose himself. he makes the ground and makes us realize the need of the newly established rule(s) and we ourselves are convinced. while my youngsters :(
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October 28th, 2008 at 8:39 am
I’m the eldest one… and I do have to set the rules sometimes!
But really, like you pointed out, I too realize I’m not their mother and I try not to make rules, lol.
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October 28th, 2008 at 3:54 pm
I don’t wanna be much bossy with my lil sis but I do feel responsible for her especially people she hangs around. Sometimes I feel I’m to strick but I feel it’s my duty!
October 28th, 2008 at 4:16 pm
I’m the eldest and I had always treated my younger siblings as friends, so when I set the rules, they would happily oblige. I care for them a lot, and I guess they know this, that’s why they never gave me a hard time :)
And yes, it’s important that we consciously avoid being/sounding like a parent to them.
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October 29th, 2008 at 6:03 am
I am the eldest and had struggled lot of times to balance the issues after my father passed away,no doubt it’s a tough job. Sometimes I need to be very strict as a elder brother rather than sounding like a parent to them. At times I enjoyed being elder in the family but at the next moment want to be younger so as to lead a carefree life:)
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October 29th, 2008 at 1:54 pm
Ahem…don’t have any siblings so can’t say anything! :D
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October 29th, 2008 at 5:54 pm
Thx all, so in a way most of you are saying.. me strict but be soft as well. Hmm ok let’s see I am focusing on somethings these days hope it works out :P
November 1st, 2008 at 1:57 pm
Hmmm I am the elder sis and ya when we were in the hostel I was responsible for my sis n all she did, moneyy etc. Tho my sis resented it in the begining she was ok with it later and today too she calls me whenever she feels the need to ask for a lendin ear or sum advice so guess not being too strict but a friendly approch and talkin things out helped :)
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