In most of us Asians the tendency to call someone a brother or sister is quite high. I have been quite known for this at CrazeFM Radio where I host the shows. I call every other girl and guy a sister or a brother (depending on their gender ofcourse hehe) but yah coming back to the point as to why we Asians take this so seriously and what values lie in this whole thing.
What about you? How easily do you call someone a sister or a brother? I heard it a lot of times from lots that Naa my real brother is my real brother and my real sister is my sister that’s it! I don’t need more.
I am not saying that those people have any back thoughts but me personally thinks that it’s the respect you give the other person by defining their “role” in your life, IF they are a person you meet daily that is. If its someone you just met or someone you met via a friend, then obviously it depends on the kind of relation you share with your friend and then onwards.
There are people who might say that they don’t need to prove their “back thoughts” by calling someone a sister or a brother. Well that depends what you value the most, as one can be respectful towards someone without calling them anything and can be a psycho even if they do call someone a sister or a brother.
How easily do YOU make someone your brother or a sister?
November 3rd, 2008 at 1:36 am
Bhai G im scared of calling someone a sister. i can bet more than expected No. of girls/women dont like to be called sister.
yes im talking abouut Pakistan.
not because they dislike this relation but because you will call them Baji, Appi, Aapa … which are for sure used for elder sisters, and you know girls are never grown beyond 18 years
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November 3rd, 2008 at 6:49 am
LOL @ Duffer’s comment!
In real life, I extremely dislike making someone my brother/sister. Because I have seen people getting too frank with each other ‘under the cover’ of this bhai behan thing. And when someone frowns at their behavior, they are all like “hey, we are just brother and sister.” Yeah right!! *rolling eyes* So in real life, if I want to maintain distance from a guy, I just keep my behavior such that he clearly gets the message.
However, I have noticed that since I have started blogging, I have started calling many guys ‘bhai’. Probably, you are being friendly with a person of opposite gender and rather than calling him ‘buddy/dude/man’, you just use ‘bro/brother’. And over the Net, I don’t mind being called ‘sister/sis/sista’ either!
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November 3rd, 2008 at 9:59 am
@ duffer
hehe ok :p chalo ye sahi hei ke they dont like it phir kehte hi nahi
@ ordinary girl
chalo sista thats good to know and yah yehi to lots of ppl misuse that word which puts others in bad light na
November 3rd, 2008 at 1:49 pm
I have almost more than a dozen brothers over net, lol… yea they love to call me sister
I so far didn’t find much people who said ‘don’t call me brother’
even my net brother once said ‘Ayesha your family won’t be worried about your wedding and dowry, mashaAllah you got lots of brother’
I have a brother whom i met on net 9/10 years ago, and we are more like a family now
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November 4th, 2008 at 9:19 am
I made more Baaji’s than choti behens
in my college days. YES, it’s very common in our Asians, may be there is an instinct in us which we call sister’s and brother’s with due respect.
November 4th, 2008 at 1:54 pm
Well hmmm I am called di by most in the net world n i dont mind that as its a sign of respect but i most certainly dont call any one a sis unless i feel they can b a sis i mean i value the relationship and so unless i feel they r my bros/ sis i never say it splly wen i hv seen many men call me di,or sis n still flirt or make a pass
its just another word for them but hmm not for me 
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November 5th, 2008 at 1:35 pm
I don’t make someone my brother or sister that easily.I have noticed that many people will call each other bro or sis just to indicate that there is nothing “else” going on between them.Its very common in our Asian communities to call each other bro or sis just to be on the safer side.I think thats a totally wrong reason to make some one brother or sister.I believe that being withing your limits and respecting the person in front of you is enough.