I had a show on Wakas Mir LIVE a few days ago, where I picked up the topic of “Girl and Guy friendships in our Asian Culture” and boy oh boy did we have comment after comment.
Some were for it, some against. Those against it had a point that in our culture if one is to be friends with the opposite sex, one HAS to define the relationship from the beginning so the other person doesn’t get “oversmart” in assuming the “affair”. Those that were FOR the idea that it is perfectly normal, pointed out that we have to go with the time and not be so stone aged.. well that made a few people get mad about it, that our religion comes first and we should stay within the boundries of that instead of making our own “rules”
All in all, both parties had valid points, although I myself feel that if one is to be friends with opposite sex then defining the relationship via your talks and actions is better than sitting a few months later getting a love you note from someone who you have no feelings for at all.
Do share your views.. 
November 28th, 2008 at 7:48 pm
hello… nicely said didi…
i believe that yes a boy and a gal can for sure be frds. its just the way our culture looks at is, make it difficult. in other words… if a gal is talking to one boy a lot everyone around them start thinking that they are going out. infact that happened in my own family… my bro is very close to this gal, and everyone at some point thought that they were couple. being his sister i knew that both of them are very very close frds… and still till this day they have been frds for more than 10 years and they have nothing going on… so i think it proves that a boy and gal can be frds… but in our cluture we push this relationship of friendship to other level where in the end the frds themseleves start believing that they are in love…. and only after marriage they find out they have nothing alive to be married or they dont love each other. if one person is not pushed on the idea of love they can remain frds… as ma bro and his frd seema….
duas for alll
December 3rd, 2008 at 7:43 am
I think its all about the experiences one have had in life with all this friendship with the oposite sex etc.. And how that actually went, is going and ended for that matter
I personally dont think that a guy and a girl can be “Just friends”, Lets say they can get along and hello hey, and be quiet good “Friends” but for then they in the very beginning have to make it clear what kind of respect they giving here, so that later on there are no heartbreaks and missunderstandings..
I belive when we say friends, it means Friend forever and always, and being there in good and bad times for eachother, coz kehte hain na ke True Love is rare, but true Friendships is even more rare.. So what im trying to say is that when a girl and boy can be “Just Friends” then there shouldnt be any limits, they can go on and call eachother in the middle of night if they upset or need their friend to talk to, but no thats not what happends.. That “thought” come ke what will his girlfriend/wife think, what will her boyfriend/Hubby think, would they feel comftble etc etc etc a huge list of thoughts…
So for me.. No sorry I dont believe in this “Just Friends” theori!