In the last liveshow on www.crazefm.com I had a topic called “Staying away from manipulative people”. The best thing that came out of it was that a few users emailed after the show to tell me that it made a great impact on their lives and they got great tips from it. For the recording you can check www.wakasmirlive.com.
During the show I talked mostly about the way one can stay away from being in the cycle of manipulation. And some tips were also given. Two of them were that:-
- You tell the manipulator that you do know how they feel (while he / she is talking)
- And then like a broken record, keep on repeating same thing. For example:- If they ask you to do something for them, keep asking for time, or say i need time to think, or I am unable to do it..
If you repeat the above a few times, you will surely trigger them to be a bit angry, and a manipulator usually enters that phase quite quick when you show resistance.
But what about you? How do YOU deal with manipulative people? Or are you one yourself..?
July 19th, 2009 at 9:52 am
Every show definity leave a great impact on someone-somehow
N this one about manipulation was awesome Wakas, because this is something that’s goin around a lot these days. In fact this thing been disturbing people since ages.
It’s not at all a pleasent feelin being manipulated, especially when you know that the other person is maniputating you N you can’t put a stop on that – I’ve personally seen around how some people are manipulatin towards others, they would do anything to get their way – play mind games, use tears, use their broken hearts, they would lie, they would use excuses N use anything to just get things just exactly how they wish – N unfortunately there are soft hearted N good people out there who don’t even realise what’s happening untill it’s late N then they sit N wonder why they let someone manipulate them. The worst thing is that a manipulator would KNOW how to manipulate N where to hit, this is something one need to watch out for. N remember that you can’t please everybody, if someone is feelin bad or is not so comfy with some situation, it’s not your issue. Everyone is in charge of their own mood N life. One being cruel N bad to someone obviously gona pay for it one way or the other but As long as one don’t do anything unjustice N bad to someone near N dear, one can just smile N chill
I myself never been manipulative towards anyone, once when I THOUGHT that: Am I being manipulative? I stopped right there N just changed the whole thing. But, I have been manipulated loads of time o boi loads of time
N I do accept that because I’ve always been very very bad at sayin NO, N always would think that it’s my duty that everyone around me is smiling, content N happy. But thanks to few wonderful friends N help from God I’ve put my foot down now N I’m learning to say NO where I sense that someone is somehow tryin to manipulate me. Just as It’s MYself who can keep me happy N content, similiar It’s not my responsibility to make sure everyone is happy N content in life 
God bless, Infinity