I often see people who are very closed up. Like they don’t want to talk to anyone or maybe if they do, their self awareness quality isn’t polished as such at that point. If you feel you are a bit tiny closed up then these tips might work since i use them daily and manage to befriend every single soul I meet. I am following the one thing these days which goes like this.
“You can’t make people like you, but you can rob them of reasons to dislike you”
1. Smile – VERY IMPORTANT
When I meet someone I always smile, ALWAYS! that’s a must to make them realize that you mean “business”. Or in otherwords that you are interested in them as a person, as an individual.
2. Ask about them
They want to be asked questions. But remember don’t get too personal if you don’t know them well enough. But start off being yourself and work your way through as to what they like. If they are into football (soccer) then drag the conversation into asking if they do some sports or something.
3. Tell them to take care
I always do that, unknowingly (lol). When I handshake someone for the first time, I say “Asalamu alaikum”, the Islamic greeting which means “May peace be upon you” .. so the next time I meet them i always say “ok then take care of yourself ya”… so that kind of sends a signal from my side to the other person that for me their betterment is important. Rather than saying “ok cya”, I always add take care, or “Apna khayal rakheiga” either it’s a teenager or an old person.
What about you? How do you interact with people?
September 21st, 2009 at 8:24 am
I think it’s very important all these three things, Smilin, N making the other person feel that you are intrested to knoww what things they are intrested in doin, as well showin care [knowingly or unknowingly
] – Peaople usuly love it when you want to know how they are, how they feel N think etc etc more than listening usuly they like talking – that’s what I’ve noticed interactin with different people. When I meet people, SMILE is always there because obviously that kind of breaks the ice a lil ,[but I don't smile walkin at the street though hehe unless it's someone who looks at me directly N smile a tiny etc].
I’ve developed “listening” quality in me, which I feel helps me quite a lot interactin with people, Have sensed people feel v comfy when you actually tells them with your actions that you’re there if they wish to talk about anything, let it be anything small or big. I don’t ask too many questions though, unless the other person don’t tell want some help about any issue, because then I need to know the whole picture before I really can advice anythin.
So yeah basically, once you smile – rest comes easily. One thing I believe in is: Be genuine N it shows – Definitely
September 23rd, 2009 at 1:26 am
i agree with above 3 yew have shared bhaiya!!
to add more i normally tend to keep distance when im interacting with them…to give them their personal space!!
because i have seen if respect people’s personal space it has a positive affect–
this is wht i do
and dua didi i agree with yew on being genuine! because one tends to feel it when we are not genuine…at least there have been times i dnt feel comfortable because i feel as it there is some kind of bearer in between!!
god bless!