I have to admit that in our house I do try to put in some basic rules that I feel that we brothers should follow. Since dad is too “flexible” and mum isn’t well. But the thing is I have come to a conclusion which most of you have come to ages n ages ago. Which is, that one can NOT control anyone but oneself.

I tried placing small time limits on when the brothers should be home and so on, but funnily enough knowing that they will follow it one day and forget it the other day.. I still try to make sure they follow it. Even to the extreme that they don’t pick up the phone sometimes with the “fear” that I will call them to come home.

Sadly the incidents that I was afraid of did happen, two of my brothers got into a major fight where four adults beat them in middle of the night, just as I always said someone would do that. Then the other bro got into another issue because he wouldn’t listen.

But knowing it all I still to this date try in my own sense to do my bit as a older bro. I can’t just let go because the day I back out, everything will fall on the spot. So the trick is that now I take less stress of what they are doing and more focus on myself and keep saying this to myself “You can not control anyone but yourself”.. phew that feels lot better.