I sometimes wonder that when we say that if someone passes away or dies we will die. But in reality it doesn’t happen. I mean there are millions of such cases in front of our own eyes where we see people losing their loved ones and they would be like “I am going to die if something happens to you” etc..

But what happens?

They move on! They move on but one thing in our minds should be that no matter who we lose, the way we live our life will definitely be different. We will definitely be affected in a lot of various aspects.

For example when my Mum was ill I used to feel my life would end right there because without Mum I don’t want to be in this world. What happened? I am still alive, but then again that’s what God wants us to do. He knows that when we lose someone he also gives us the courage to cope their loss and live our life based on the lessons and things we learnt from those that are gone.

I miss mum every single second from the day she left this world to enter heaven, but I am sure she left knowing that those she left behind have the strength to move on.

How do you cope with a loss of your loved ones?

I have done lots of shows about families and relationships on Crazefm.com and have come to one conclusion which most of you already know maybe. That living in a joint family system is something that not everyone can manage.

There are plus points and minuses, the plus points are usually not that many as the negative ones. A family where there is just one head of the family a mother or a father left that family usually can’t manage that well having all children under them, as I think. Reason being that everything comes under that one person, who is either the father in law or mother in law.

Situations usually end up being bad when they don’t realize that decisions they make affect everyone and decisions married couples make affect the whole family.

What do you think about joint families? Because as far as I know there is no such set rule that one has to live in a joint family to survive…

I have often wondered on various little things. One of them being the “fact” that whenever we are going through a tough and sad patch in life we tend to forget to smile. Why is that? We all do know that when we are sad we are using more energy than what we would be using if we were smiling right? So why is it so tough?

Oh yes maybe because the devil’s job is done when he tells us that now life is over, we are finished and nothing can be done. But that’s just the time to pick the bat up and bash the devil’s head “the invisible devil ofcourse, don’t go beating someone in real”

The moment you do something which is the opposite of doing what your heart is telling you to do which you KNOW is wrong, that’s when you win over your sad feelings and moments.

Ask yourself the following whenever you are sad:-

• Is it a matter of life and death?
  NO, then chill and smile, there is hope
• Is there no way out of the situation?
  NO? Impossible.. there is no such situation which you can’t find a way out of

• Are you the ONLY one going through such a phase?
  Yes? Come on.. that’s impossible, it can’t be Others might be in a worst state but smiling

There is a trick to getting out of a miserable state. You have a mirror in your room or house right? well next time you are miserable and very sad, look in it and ask yourself, would YOU love to be around yourself right now

If the answer is NO, then wash your face, wash those tears and make yourself lovable because that’s the REAL you! That’s how we ALL were made.. the hate and sadness is the product of our own silly expectations..

Smile!

There are relationships where communication is totally non-existent and there are relationships that have communication on top of its list. I mean I have seen relationships broken into pieces due to someone not being able to communicate their worries or fears properly.
On the other hand I have seen relationships that are so pure and wonderful that things just fall perfectly in place.

Communication in a relationship is as important to a couple as oxygen is important to our lungs. No air we die.. no communication the relationship dies.. And sad part is that most couples that end up being together know that communication is the ONLY thing they require to last a lifetime they still forget about it the moment they start assuming things about one another.

What about you? What does communication mean to you in a relationship of any sort?

Relationships are complicated. Or maybe we make them complicated ourselves. I guess that the only way one can manage to maintain a healthy relationship is when one gives it 100% of the effort it requires and deserves. Lots of people I see sometimes have complaints that their relationship isn’t at the level its supposed to be but when you look at the effort they are putting in, it’s almost close to none.

They would give their time to their friends, games, outdoor activities and everything that does NOT include their spouse or their partner.
I feel that an investment in a relationship is never going to return in a loss. You always win at the end.

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What do you think? What are your views on that?

There are lots of things one can do or say to tell the one they love about them being faithful to them. But what is being faithful? Is it being with them forever and ever or respecting and understanding their love so deep that you move onto some of the toughest decisions of your life. Well it depends on the relation itself. Some relations demand lots of questioning and some relations are just soul to soul, that one can just close their eyes and be with them without them being right next to you.

But since topic is about being faithful.. what is in your view being faithful to your loved ones? Is it when you give your 100% to keep yourself devoted to them, or is it giving into their soul deep promises..?

Come on now you really think I would write reasons to hate your parents? Obviously not. I will instead focus on the reasons as to why we should love our parents.

1. They brought us to this world
2. They gave up their peaceful night sleep to keep us safe
3. They provided us with care and comfort
4. They loved us and still love us unconditionally no matter what
5. When we succeed, we know they are genuinely happy for us.

Please add your 5 “reasons” to loving your parents…

I was just wondering how quickly the time changed. Few years ago when I was a kid I remember that 15-16 year olds didn’t go that far into the extreme when it came to anything. Either it’s skipping school, going out with someone or anything for that matter. Since I went to school in Norway, this going out thing is quite common sadly. Why sadly you say? Well first of all.. I am NOT a big fan of kids who feel that at a age of 14 or 15 the one they are with is the love of their life.

Just two days ago a girl from a family that I know tried to commit suicide because the guy who she was with ditched her second day cuz he was with her just for fun. Sadly I had given a 4 hour lecture to this girl a few weeks back about life and stuff. Too bad it didn’t sink in that well that she went on and did this. She tried this silly act twice till now. All because of a stupid 15 year old jerk who probably still wears his diapers. I mean come on kids.. what is wrong with you????

Do you have any idea what love is? The purity the beautiful way it changes your life, the way it makes you a better person.

What do you guys think.. I mean any of you feel the same way that “kids” atleast should focus on what’s important. Which is education.. not this nonsense they claim is love.

Charity is one thing that lots of people don’t think so much about. Or maybe if they do they think it has everything to do with money and nothing else. So they kind of back out whenever someone says would you give some charity to this or that cause.

But why do we forget that sometimes helping someone needy, give them some time, fix someone’s issues for them, guide them, show them bit of love, and take out time for someone is a charity on its own. A pure charity that might never take a single cent out of your pocket.

I have had moments in the past when I had given lots of times to lots of people in my life who might be going through tough times. And amazing thing that touched me so much was when I was down for some reason, the same words were said to me to make me feel better. That was just out of the world to see that someone somewhere is so changed that now they can help out others including those they said they learnt these things from. I learn every single day and whatever I learn I share it on my shows or the blog. So in this learning process we all learn together hand in hand

So idea behind this post is. Give as much as you can, hold no boundry to any love or care you show to others.. and one day or the other.. it will come back ten folds and sometimes even more

Have you ever come across something or someone in life that you feel that you have known since ages? Or feel that even if you have met them a few days ago you feel that this was meant to be and nothing ever can come in between you and that person ever again?

How does it feel? Do you feel the sense of an attachment that will never fade away? I sensed that a three years back when someone just made everything around me so beautiful with their kind and pure words that came straight from their heart. You can just FEEL it!

What about you? Any such emotions that you wish to share that might make rest of us also realize that this is just normal