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Kids that don’t care

Wakas — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 21:13:27 +0000

I am writing a lot these days about kids and families and so on. Reason being that I am seeing a lot around me the kind of “care” some children show towards their parents. When someone is ill their sense of being touchy increases a lot and when they are parents they do expect that kids do take out time to ask them how they are doing and so on.

When one knows that your parent is ill to the extreme, then how come some children find other things more important rather then spending time with someone who is the PRIME reason that they are in this world? If it was in my control I would put all those type of children on a big ship and send them so far away that their parents never ever go through the hell of finding out that them caring for their kids was just a total loss.

Why don’t these kids see that them not caring for their parents at the hour of need is a disgrace to humanity and I personally feel that anyone who doesn’t have feelings for their parents isn’t fit to be called a human being.. and yes not even an animal, since even animals have some bit of affection for their parents.

Five Reasons to hate your parents

Wakas — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 21:37:10 +0000

Come on now you really think I would write reasons to hate your parents? Obviously not. I will instead focus on the reasons as to why we should love our parents.

They brought us to this world
They gave up their peaceful night sleep to keep us safe
They provided us with care and comfort
They loved us and still love us unconditionally no matter what
When we succeed, we know they are genuinely happy for us.

Please add your 5 “reasons” to loving your parents…

Working to live or living to work

Wakas — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 13:51:40 +0000

There are numerous things that parents do for their children. One minus is when they start believing that money is ALL they need to give their kids. That’s the time when things go the wrong way. I have seen lots of families that suffer badly especially with the kids. Kids feel that parents spend too much time earning money and not giving them quality time. While parents think that them spending more time at work will give them more money so their kids can be “happy”.

But can happiness really be bought with money. Can materialistic things ever match the one minute of love spent with your kids? Do you think Asian parents usually go over the board when giving their kids everything but time..

Where to draw the line

Wakas — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 09:37:15 +0000

When it comes to raising kids, the parents play a major role obviously. But what do you do when you are the eldest in the house, amongst your brothers and sisters. Where do you draw the line?

This is a question asked by all those elder brothers and sisters around the world who really care about their siblings. But what happens when you cross the line from being a bro to a father? Where does the respect go from that point on forward is just something very dangerous for that relationship.

I am the eldest among my siblings and sometimes when I define some rules at home which dad is too soft to establish, it makes things go a bit up and down. So from now onwards I will focus on being a brother rather than being a dad because tested and proven methods don’t work when the head of the house isn’t strict like you

So what about you? If you are the young one in your family.. how do you want your eldest bro or sis to behave with you? And if you are the eldest what do you do?

Respecting your parents

Wakas — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 08:26:30 +0000

Was thinking ke our desi guys and gals either go to the extreme of being very respectful towards their parents or the opposite. But since I am focusing on desis here are some tips which obviously I would be following too.. dair aaye darust aaye (better late than never) for the few reading.

1. Listen to them

If they got something to say, listen to them. As they keep the roof over your head and provide you with food. So sad to NOT show your thankfulness after so much they do for you. Calm down don’t shout and just listen to what they have to say. Remember they are your parents, not your classfellows that you can just listen through one ear and out the other.

2. Don’t argue with them

Arguing never helps at all, just think over what you are saying and try to be realistic. Sometimes you will see, well most of the times you will see that you being in that argue-mode will make a situation even worse. Calm down, have a glass of lassi or a cup of tea.

3. Be very polite

Being polite is always the best thing you can do for yourself and your parents, especially when guests are around. Don’t ever humiliate them in front of others. They will be hurt very badly.

4. Got friends? Ask them to behave

It’s your job to make sure your friends behave in front of your parents, and vice versa. Don’t try to be oversmart by making your parents look bad. Friends who see that you don’t respect your parents, will NEVER value you in the long run.

5. Show them that they are special

Do things for them around the house all the time. Your parents are special and also humanbeings like you, they also need rest and don’t have to keep on caring for you when you have your own set of hands and feet. How do you think you came to this world? Dropped off the nearest coconut tree?

They are special because YOU are here because of them. And nothing can be more “specialer” than that

Do add your views as to HOW we can all be more respectful towards our parents.. us desis are known to be polite when it comes to our elders.

Issi baat pe ek shair ho jaye :-

Jo banda apne maa baap ke dil ko dukhata hei
Wo zindagi bhar sab se chittar khaata hei

If you are a parent then this book is just too good, and if you are a son or a daughter with parents that don’t understand then try this one.

Now your turn! Share with the rest of us what is so special about YOUR parents This will in return make you even more aware of what you should be thankful for.