I often wonder what en elder goes through when he is standing on the buss or train while young guys and girls are sitting and not offering them their seat. Is it the lack of proper parenting that results in young people these days who don’t care that much about those “little” things? If whatever goes around comes around, then when these people will grow old isn’t the same situation going to arise then?

If you are young and stronger than the person standing on the train, buss or at a store, please exchange places. Those beautiful little gestures might just come back as blessings when you are old and weak.

If you have children, then spend time on giving them the right outlook over the way to treat elders, show them how to talk to elders by being an example yourself.

Few tips as how you can “respect” elders around you:-

• Give them your place in the buss or train
• If you are ahead in line at a store, exchange with an elder person behind you
• When they look at you, smile back
• If you live in the same “block”, help carry their bags to their floor
• Respond back with respect when they ask something.

The above tips are just some tiny ideas, that can mean the world to an elder.

I sometimes wonder that when we say that if someone passes away or dies we will die. But in reality it doesn’t happen. I mean there are millions of such cases in front of our own eyes where we see people losing their loved ones and they would be like “I am going to die if something happens to you” etc..

But what happens?

They move on! They move on but one thing in our minds should be that no matter who we lose, the way we live our life will definitely be different. We will definitely be affected in a lot of various aspects.

For example when my Mum was ill I used to feel my life would end right there because without Mum I don’t want to be in this world. What happened? I am still alive, but then again that’s what God wants us to do. He knows that when we lose someone he also gives us the courage to cope their loss and live our life based on the lessons and things we learnt from those that are gone.

I miss mum every single second from the day she left this world to enter heaven, but I am sure she left knowing that those she left behind have the strength to move on.

How do you cope with a loss of your loved ones?

The world’s most beautiful feeling is often the world’s most confusing feeling / emotion. Telling someone you love them takes a lot of guts first of all and then comes to the commitment of holding onto them forever and ever.

But what about nowadays? Has this thing changed? I often hear people say “Good old days, people used to value love now they value money” .. but who lived in those good old days? People.. right? People like you and I. So what makes those days different than the days we are living now?

Maybe the saying of “There was more value for love in the old days” is said by someone who didn’t manage to find someone who was “perfect” according to them? But what is perfect? Should the one you love be perfect for everyone, perfect for you or perfect in being themselves?

In my view someone who is perfect in being themselves is the one that can manage to make a place in your heart. Because they are neither going to try to be someone they aren’t nor will they be the unsatisfying type who always have a reason to doubt their shortcomings.

But what about the I LOVE YOU bit? Does it flow out of your mouth any different than it did for people before us? Did humans change as to how they are to portray their feelings to their loved ones or are they insecure in as to how to say it? Are they scared as to if they say it they won’t be able to handle the “pressure” or do they keep on saying it because they think the other person can’t do anything when we break their heart anyway so let’s continue?

So going back and forth .. what do you think? Do you feel the words “I Love You” are being given the respect they deserve?

I had a show on Wakas Mir LIVE a few days ago, where I picked up the topic of “Girl and Guy friendships in our Asian Culture” and boy oh boy did we have comment after comment.

Some were for it, some against. Those against it had a point that in our culture if one is to be friends with the opposite sex, one HAS to define the relationship from the beginning so the other person doesn’t get “oversmart” in assuming the “affair”. Those that were FOR the idea that it is perfectly normal, pointed out that we have to go with the time and not be so stone aged.. well that made a few people get mad about it, that our religion comes first and we should stay within the boundries of that instead of making our own “rules”

All in all, both parties had valid points, although I myself feel that if one is to be friends with opposite sex then defining the relationship via your talks and actions is better than sitting a few months later getting a love you note from someone who you have no feelings for at all.

Do share your views..