One of the most amazing times of our lives have been spent in our childhood. Lots of people might have different opinions about that since not everyone is lucky enough to get the love of their parents, families, or siblings. And my heart goes out to them since it’s not their fault at all that they didn’t manage to meet those that have left the world before them, but that’s just how the world moves forward. We come and go and the time is fixed for us all.
But really how important is a childhood that is spent with healthy minded people around you. Because I feel when a child is brought into this world the time for “thinking it over” is up. It’s actually when two people are thinking of bringing a life into this world when they should be in the state of mind that
“Are we ready to give our time to the new life we are thinking of bringing to this world?”
If the answer to the above is no, being a fellow citizen of this world I would beg those people to not go ahead with any drastic plans as the kid that gets no time from their parents when they need it, becomes an incomplete person who further leads on a life bringing more incomplete people to this world.
What is an incomplete person you say?
- Someone who won’t be able to handle stress
- Someone who won’t be able to value relations
- Someone who won’t be able to tell wrong from right
- Someone who won’t be able to handle his insecurities
- Someone who won’t be able to claim his right
Do you see how serious it is? How all the “qualities” above are the result of the time the kid won’t get if the parents are too busy or not too serious at all about the most important moments of the child’s life.
I feel sorry for the kids that have dads that don’t take them out to play with them, that have dads that do not take time out to help them with their homework, or ask them what they been upto today and what they are thinking of and so on. Same goes for mothers ofcourse. Since just bringing a kid into this world and not injecting in him the powerful emotions such as being caring, loving and respecful towards others is just like bringing a kid into this world and putting him in the middle of the most busiest traffic junction, and then wondering “Oh why didn’t our kid make it to the other side”..
Well to answer the above, the reason why “your” kid didn’t make it could be that you didn’t provide him with the skills that were needed for him to survive in this world.
But remember if you are one of those that did not get the proper healthy childhood that doesn’t mean that you are bound to be a failure. No no, not at all. This is just a rare case that some very lucky individuals who meet later on in life some very lovely people who turn their minds upside down and make them into what was actually a vital role of a parent.
I am in no way saying that only good parenting alone will result in bringing a successful person to this world. But it surely plays a vital role and boosts the confidence of the child beyond all leaps and bounds.
So let’s promise ourselves, that those of us who have no kids yet and aren’t married, and even those that have kids will from now on give as much time as they can to those we bring into this world. Since if we are blessed with the gift of kids then we definitely have to do something to make the kids feel that they are worth our time just like they should be.
What do you think about this whole childhood phase?
August 26th, 2008 at 5:42 pm
Well a good foundation always makes a building strong so does a good early childhood .It helps in making a person who they are. Why ? simply because kids are more open to learning when young & values instilled in them, the upbringing & time spent with children when young have big part to play when they are grown ups.They imbibe all you teach them & as tender souls they do need attention, care love n understanding too
Very well written Wakas n appreciate the importance of the topic raised as it moulds complete humans of tommorrow.
August 27th, 2008 at 1:32 pm
It is rather very difficult and painful for me to describe my childhood adventure…bcz it was both tough & rough going …being born in a smal nameless one street village surrounded with utmost poverty and having lost my dear mom at tender age of 10 yrs..I was left alone to self-raise myself…Imagine being yougest sales vender in the village vegitable market to make a living…but life was not short of miracles for me…one day a good hearted teacher advised me to go school in neighboring town which I did..I think he had a vision for me..after fininshing both primary &H-schooling in short 7yrs period by being top in the class & getting college degree with gold medal, I left the country for a greener grass ..so from then on there was no turnig back…So as child I always tried to dream high & tried to acheive it albeit facing compelling hardships…where there is will there is way…
August 28th, 2008 at 4:41 am
@ saanj
true saanj.. mothers are amazing and can either make or break a child’s whole personality.. thx for your comment
@ ghulam sahib
you sure managed it very well ..
Wow.. this sure is very inspiring and thx a lot for sharing with us all
August 29th, 2008 at 7:24 am
Hmmmm
Very true Wakas Chilhood phase has lots and lots and lots to do with one indiviual’s personality and entire Life process 
Coz as said above that A good foundation always makes a building strong!!! And I think that actually says it all…
But yes true that if one unfortunately not had a so very good childhood and didnt got the attention, Love, support, care, time they deserved from their parents etc, that does definitely Not mean they are destined to fail thru their whole life, I personally know few ppl, their childhood were nothing but a nightmare, no love no care, no support infact got beaten up for just nothing hmmm etc, and today they are really successfull, and living a “healthy” life… coz as once again said above “Where there is Will there is a Way”
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Allah bless u Wakas and thanx for this article
August 29th, 2008 at 7:28 am
@ bholibhali
I agree, that yes it’s not a proven fact that those that don’t have a proper childhood won’t make it in the future. As you said “Where there is a will there is a way” So yes.. it depends on the person later on in life
And ofcourse if he or she is surrounded by people who push them higher then it will be lots easier..