When we say “May you live a long life” to our children, it often comes from a place of love, tradition, and instinct. It’s the kind of thing we’re used to hearing at birthdays, celebrations, or after a meaningful achievement. But over the years, I’ve come to realize that wishing for a long life alone isn’t enough.
A life that stretches across decades but is filled with restlessness, loneliness, or hardship is not a gift. Longevity without peace can feel like a burden. So when I make dua for my children, I don’t stop at “long life.” I ask for something deeper. I ask that their years be filled with peace, that they live with contentment, that their hearts are anchored, no matter how far they go.
Peace and contentment are two things no amount of wealth or success can guarantee. But a sincere prayer from a parent has a way of settling in a child’s soul and showing up when they need it most.
That’s why I believe in praying for them not only silently but also openly—where they can hear it. When you raise your hands and ask Allah to give your child ease, to guide them, to protect their heart and their dignity, something happens. They don’t just feel blessed, they feel seen. Loved. Chosen.
And that feeling stays with them.
Sometimes we forget how powerful our words are, especially when said in front of others. Praying for your child in front of them is more than just a spiritual act—it’s a message. It says, “You are worth praying for.” It gives them confidence. It makes them feel important. And when life gets heavy, and the noise of the world gets loud, they will remember who they are through what they heard from you.
There will come a day when they’re tested. When they question their path, when they feel alone or unsure. In those moments, your prayers will not have been wasted. They will come alive. They will walk beside your child when you can’t.
So don’t hold your duas back. Don’t think you need to wait for the perfect moment or the right gathering. Whether it’s a casual car ride, a dinner at home, or after a simple hug—pray. Let them hear it. Let them carry it.
Because if we, as their parents, don’t pray for them like this, who else will?
So yes, wish them a long life. But make sure it’s a life full of peace, dignity, and meaning. That’s the kind of life truly worth living. And it starts with our words, our intentions, and our hands raised in sincere prayer.
