The thing that most of us humans enjoy these days and feel as if its the only thing that will make our gatherings enjoyable is talking behind someone’s back. How can we stop from doing this?
It’s said that talking behind someone’s back is like eating your dead brothers flesh. Not only that, but as our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said once to one of his companions. “I can guarantee you a place in heaven if you can guarantee me two things” when asked what these things were.. he said “One is to control your tongue, and other is your lust (for vulgar acts)”
In one occasion, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)’s wife Hazrat Aisha (Radhiyallahu-Anha) once said something about someone that this and that person has a short height. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) in response said “Aisha if at this very moment your tongue is placed in the largest of oceans, the whole ocean would become poison“.
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said :”Do you know what backbiting is?” They said, “God and His Messenger know best.” He then said, “It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike.” Someone asked him, “But what if what I say is true?” The Messenger of God (pbuh) said, “If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him.”
How many times have you heard someone say:-
- He is black
- He is short
- He is langhda (not being able to walk)
- He is andha (blind)
- He is fat
- He is thin
- I would say it on his face what I am about to tell you
- What i am going to tell you is a secret he or she told me
- You know that friend of yours did this or that…
Why do those people forget who talk like this that if God can make them blind, he can make YOU blind as well. The God who made someone not able to walk properly, can also put YOU in that situation. What’s so special about YOU?
There are ways to get away from this sick habit and stopping others:-
- Leave the group where someone is talking bad about someone
- When you have nothing good to say don’t say it.. will save you from lots of trouble 🙂
- When you start to talk to someone about another person, ask yourself.. would you want someone else to talk like this about you?
Backbiting and gossiping, my friend, is the worst habits anyone can ever have. It totally messes our personality, and the way people look at us. Not only that, it’s one of the biggest reasons why some people suffer in life and will suffer in the day of qayamat. It’s said that at the day og judgement, those that talk behind someone’s back will have nails of copper and will be ripping their flesh and face with their hands. That’s how bad it is..
What about you guys n gals.. how do you see backbiting?